Why I love HIMYM
Future Ted: From that moment I wasn’t angry anymore… Kids, you may think your only choices are to swallow your anger or throw it in someone’s face, but there’s a third option: You can just let it go, and only when you do that is it really gone and you can move forward. And that kids, was the perfect ending to a perfect love story. It just wasn’t mine. Mine was still out there, waiting for me.
I fell in love with How I Met Your Mother last week. It’s a little crazy when we (Josh and me) begin to like a sitcom because when it comes to loving a show, I love that show. Our friends back home kept bugging us to watch the series, and usually, I’m a little hesitate to liking shows or movies. I’m the type of person when I love something, I’ll be able to quote it like I have the whole seasons written on my palms (ask me about Scrubs or F.R.I.E.N.Ds, you’ll see). I can watch and rewatch something I love over and over again and never get sick of it. Our friends kept saying that HIMYM was great, an almost mix of Scrubs and F.R.I.E.N.Ds (as you can tell, my two favorite shows of all time), and finally, last week we gave in.
I loved it. I fell in love. HIMYM probably has the best pilot I’ve seen when it comes to a sitcom, and it’s such a great comedy, which is my cup of tea. But what I love about it is how it shows the complicated friendships between men and women, which is a bit more realistic than F.R.I.E.N.Ds. I like how Robin and Ted never end up together (even though they do try–you have to try, even if it is a mistake). I love Barney and Robin together. I love the friendship between Barney and Lily. And, most of all, I love the relationship between Marshall and Lily. Our friends already called Josh and me the Marshall and Lily of the group, and if you know our story, it’s definitely true. Josh and I have been together for over nine years and had an almost falling out too, and it’s really, really cool to see that kind of couple on television. They just speak to us. When I tell people the short, short story between Josh and me, I usually get an, “Awwwww, I can’t believe you two have been together for nine years!” or “Oh wow, nine years huh? Do you ever feel like you’re missing out?” And the truth is, like Marshall and Lily, sure, we’ve had our doubts (and fights) before but the thing about relationships and people is when that person is the right one… You’re never bored. When it’s right, it’s right, and even though it’s hard, you love them with this kind of love that’s almost ineffable to describe. I guess the reason why is because of this little caveat: in this life, you’ll never fully know another person. It takes a lifetime to get to know somebody else (it almost takes half a lifetime to even know yourself). And when you marry the right person, it really is all that romantic stuff, like little blue French horns, finding a string quartet in your apartment, or a 2-minute date that includes two taxi rides, dinner, dessert, and a movie. I love Josh. I could list all the romantic, funny, ineffable moments we’ve had, like the time he failed to set up a bajillion candles in my room in time, when he showed up on my balcony at college as a surprise, when he showed up at my door with bouquets of roses, to when he surprised me in our hotel room in Orlando with a beautiful diamond with sapphires at the tips. Sure, there are routines that Josh and I have built since the beginning of our relationship. But it’s still new. We’re still learning so much about each other. There was one part in season one where Lily and Marshall made up excuses to not go on this big romantic trip at upstate New York and opted to stay home instead. Haha, Josh and I laughed so much at that part because… that’s us. We have this laziness to us and it’s something long-term couples can definitely relate too. There was another part in season three (excuse me if I’m wrong) where Lily has hidden her really, really bad debt from Marshall and they have this big fight over it. At the end, Marshall tells Lily, “I don’t want to get a divorce. When I married you, I married your problems too, even the ones I didn’t know about.” I totally teared up at that part. Because, if you ever loved someone and you did get married to them without knowing everything, that’s the one thing that rings true.
And if you caught that, yes, Josh and I watched seasons one to four in about three days. Haha, sometimes, we would take a break between seasons and just talk on the bed for hours and hours about… well, just us, our past relationships, and everything in between. I remember the last episode of season one and it really killed me when Lily had to leave. Their fights just spoke so much to our relationship. When they finally got back together, I loved the part when Barney visited SF to get Lily to come back to NY. What he said about their relationship really hit me too. When Josh and me had a falling out last year, two my best friends at separate times (one girl, one guy) said the same thing to me. It was first time I admitted it to Josh yesterday. They said, “But you’re Josh and Melissa… You’ve always been Josh and Melissa. You’re the relationship that made me believe in, well, you know, love. You two have to make it.” This is why I love HIMYM. Through Marshall and Lily and the other relationships of the cast members, they explore very different levels of relationships and it’s done with a tinge of truth. I’m really thankful for that.
Anywho, I really love this series. If you haven’t jumped on the bandwagon of HIMYM, you really ought to. It’s a great series and the characters are really lovable and well-rounded. I love each character, and although I love Ted the least, it’s a really great, funny, honest show. I thought the show was going to be bent on the whole identity of the mother for like seven seasons, which was the biggest reason why I was afraid to watch it–it might have gotten old–but that’s not the singular point of the sitcom. It’s about relationships. It’s about friendships, especially between a guy and a girl. And so, you already know the ending (like the fact that Ted and Robin don’t end up together), but it’s about the process. It’s about living, and it’s a great show about living. I really love it and I really do suggest you love it too.
P.S. The song “Better” by Regina Spektor (loved her since high school) played at the end of one of the episodes in season 4 during a cut scene between Stella, her family, and Ted. It’s a great scene and a great lesson. I loved it! Can’t wait to finish season six by the end of this week. ^_^